Being Straightforward

Hi people, it’s been a long while, but I’m still alive 🙂

I have a subject I would like to discuss with you guys. How would you call a person who speaks their mind directly without twirling around words ? (Without being offending on purpose, that is).

Someone who sees the way things work and points out what’s not working properly in order to make it better, or at least start a discussion about whether or not it should be the way it is ?

How would you call that kind of person and how would you relate to them ?

I would really like to know your thoughts on this. Thanks in advance.

See you around !

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    1. Monaminga dit :

      Hi! What do you mean you wouldn’t ?

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      1. jenaguru dit :

        How would i call someone apt? I wouldnt 😂 they’d probably tell me everything wrong with me

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      2. Monaminga dit :

        I see 🙂 I was wondering if there is another way of saying it rather than ‘straightforward » actually 🙂 so for you they wouldn’t be good company ?

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      3. jenaguru dit :

        Lol, i was being silly. I would call them apt or articulate and i think their company would be good. Most straightforward people can be unnecessarily blunt, but if they do show care in their words, they would probably make the best company

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      4. Monaminga dit :

        That’s the thing, it’s in the words. The way people get what is said. How can someone know how another person is going to take their words, without censoring oneself and becoming a hypocrite ?

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      5. jenaguru dit :

        Tricky. Sometimes censoring isnt the issue but emotional intelligence takes control. There’s no point in pointing out a mistake or a flaw i make bluntly in front of workmates or other people when you could do that aside to make the embarrassment less heavier. That said, it really also is in the words. You could be the most considerate but rudest bum in the world, but there is a risk of hypocrisy in uncontrolled censorship

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      6. Monaminga dit :

        Yes, tricky as you say. I can’t find a way to describe what I mean. It’s not rudeness or pointing mistakes openly. It’s asking questions which can disturb some people, not everyone (without doing it on purpose). It’s going directly to the person you want to speak to and not go through an intermediary. It’s making suggestions, opening the debate. And being considered, what ? Do you know of another word that would convey the idea better than being straightforward ?

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      7. jenaguru dit :

        Being comprehensible?

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      8. Monaminga dit :

        In other words ?

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      9. jenaguru dit :

        Comprehensible could be the word you are looking for that describes the straightforward character you mentioned earlier

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      10. Monaminga dit :

        Right. And being comprehensible doesn’t imply the rude part. Because while searching on the internet, the testimonies I found did not sound like my experience. It’s not about being aggressive or abrupt. It’s more about being taken the wrong way. Someone said « awkward »

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  1. Sadje dit :

    Are you taking about me!

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    1. Monaminga dit :

      How is it going for you ? Are you happy like that ? Do people tell you is a bad thing ?

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      1. Sadje dit :

        No, they don’t. My kids do. They think I am too outspoken. Though I have toned down my comments as not to sound like I am criticizing or given advice.

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      2. Monaminga dit :

        That is great of you. I still need to practice, but I’m sure I’m not offending or criticizing, very hard to know, all the more so that it depends on who you are talking to.

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      3. Sadje dit :

        That’s so true. Some people don’t mind an outspoken person, while others take offense at mere hint of something critical.

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  2. I call them domineering and bossy. However, I kinda like their ability to get results.

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    1. Monaminga dit :

      Oh my, D. That’s how some people get it, and it’s not about the tone. But that is really not the intent. I think it’s due to a lot of confidence, some people take it as too much assurance, and depending on whether they feel confident or if they lack of confidence, they might feel threatened. What do you think ?

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      1. They are very focused and driven to achieve. I don’t believe that they mean to come across strong. However, their goal, not the feelings of others, is top priority. I guess they figure that results will compensate for a few hurt feelings.

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      2. Monaminga dit :

        Interesting way of seeing it. Thank you, that helps 😉

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      3. Monaminga, I watched this show today and thought about you and this post. These are languages we all speak. It’s a communication tool. I’m gonna take this test to see where I am.
        Let me know what you think.

        https://www.lifelanguages.com/communication-iq-book

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      4. Monaminga dit :

        Interesting, but it’s not free 😂

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      5. I know. I just figured that out.🤔 Sorry

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      6. Monaminga dit :

        That’s ok don’t worry. I once took a similar y3dt and it gave me something like « builder » 💪

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      7. Wow that’s good! I’ve got to read all 7 to see which best fit my communication style.

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      8. Monaminga dit :

        So, did you find yet ?

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      9. Not yet. Thanks for the reminder 😉

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      10. The mover seems to fit the blunt speaking personality type https://youtu.be/1qS_5XgXKAM

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      11. I’m still looking for my style. I’ll let you know when I find it.

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      12. I am 1st Emotive: Influencer/Responder 2nd Kinetic: Doer and lastly, I think, Cognitive: Producer

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      13. Monaminga dit :

        Sounds very interesting, do you find it accurate ?

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      14. Monaminga dit :

        Thanks for the YouTube link by the way. Very interesting. I shared it with my best half cause one type suits him so well 🙂

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      15. My primary category is Emotive. I am an Influencer/Responder. Kinetic and Cognitive is secondary and last, not necessarily respectively.

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  3. Straight to the point! I can’t see another word.
    Or maybe RAW. Just because it’s one I like.
    Good to read you again!

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    1. Monaminga dit :

      Thanks for your insight. Do you also have this kind of issues where people get you wrong and you feel that if you don’t speak out and call a cat a cat you’re being inauthentic?

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  4. If a person is going to be direct or blunt with others, then I would think they would want the same in return.

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    1. Monaminga dit :

      Hey, glad to see you here!
      I think yes, since that’s a way of being they understand. They probably expect the others to be like that.

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  5. Sufferwrites dit :

    Well oooh wow I’m glad i came acroos this cause i recently had a fight with my friend and i was so straight with everything i said .I donno really but I’m very straight and yes sometimes i feel like it is blunt then i justify it in my mind and be like well its the truth i want to be loved or hated/ liked or dislike by the truth.

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    1. Monaminga dit :

      Right ? I wish people were willing to tell and heat the truth about things. There was a movie like that but I don’t remember the title. Everybody would tell the truth until someone invented lying because he realized it made people feel happier when het are lied to. Like saying to your colleague that they look fantastic when they don’t…

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  6. Sufferwrites dit :

    Ow and it’s always to make things better not worse .

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  7. Sufferwrites dit :

    WordPress and the glitsches before that i actually said .I’m a very straight foward person the other day i had a disagreement with my friend and i was so straight and truthful everything felt a bit blunt / I’ll say harsh it was never to hurt her feelings but to actully point out the truth to how i feel so i donno its sometimes a bad thing when misconstrued cause everybody justifys things in their own mind .

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    1. Monaminga dit :

      I understand, and it’s difficult to know how people are going to react to what you tell them. I find it easier to just be straight, say things so it’s clear for everyone, instead of just pretending. I dunno, it doesn’t seem obvious for everyone.

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