What’s Your Opinion On « Ghosting » ?

 

Hey folks, I would like to know your thoughts about Something they call « ghosting ». It means apparently that all of a sudden somebody disappears from your life without further notice, they Don’t answer to your calls, messages and you Don’t know why they act like that.

Let’s precise that they are not dead, you know they see your messages, that they talk to other people, they just ignore you. It starts in the virtual world, but it can also happen in real life.

My questions to you : have you experienced this ? How did you react ? Did you try and contact them ? What would you advise somebody who is going through that Strange phenomenon ? 

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  1. Sadje dit :

    I have heard of this happen. Once my friend had some family issues and she stopped answering all the calls from her friends. I finally called her husband to ask if she was okay. It took her a while to return my calls.

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    1. Monaminga dit :

      In that case it can be explained. Maybe there’s always a reason, I just find it weird.

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      1. Sadje dit :

        There is and it’s usually on their end. We just assume that it has something to do with us.

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  2. Ça ne m’est jamais arrivé 🤔 mais je pense que je laisserai la personne continuer à me ghoster… Si je ne lui ai rien fait, je n’ai rien à me reprocher alors ce n’est pas pas moi qui irait lui demander quoi que ce soit

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    1. Monaminga dit :

      Merci 🙂 donc si un.e bon.ne ami.e à toi jusque là t’ignorait subitement tu laisserais tomber ?

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      1. Je prends régulièrement des nouvelles de mes proches, donc si elle ignore mes messages et que l’on me dit qu’elle va bien, j’en déduis qu’elle ne veut plus de moi dans sa vie, alors je ne ferai pas d’efforts supplémentaires 🤔 même si j’aurai préféré qu’elle me dise le pourquoi du comment

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      2. Monaminga dit :

        Je comprends c’est un peu ma posture aussi, mais après avoir tenté de renouer quand même. Il y a un moment, je crois, où il faut respecter le besoin de distance de l’autre, même si ça nous fait de la peine.

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    1. Monaminga dit :

      I know. I have the impression that it’s kind of new these days, I don’t remember that back when I was younger.

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      1. Have you ever given a fake phone number to someone or screened you calls?

        I really don’t think it’s that bad though. I believe the majority of us are naturally conflict averse and ghosting is the easiest way of avoiding confrontation.

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      2. Monaminga dit :

        Never done either of those ! I’m just too faithful and if I have something against someone I just tell them even if it means risking the relationship, I don’t disappear without notice.

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      3. Wow, beautiful and honest.

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  3. Recently happened to me. I tried reaching out couple of times all to no avail. I give them the benefit of doubt by not making up any scenarios or false assumptions of why. Will always be open to receive them back—but should they not ever return…such is life. But I don’t lose sleep over it and never take it personal.

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    1. Monaminga dit :

      Good mentality. I find it funny how some people take the freedom to come and go in other people’s life, like it’s theirs.

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  4. Yeah. It could be that the person in question is going through a lot. I have kinda learnt never to judge people because a lot of people bottle up their problems, whereas, they are going through hell

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  5. Ash dit :

    I’ve been both the person ghosting and had someone ghost of me. I would say it’s good to communicate with people who you frequently speak to that you are taking time away and don’t want to talk to anyone. It can get toxic if they don’t tell anyone and make people worry about them without considering others.

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    1. Monaminga dit :

      Exactly. Once someone said to me that they were having a hard time and that’s why they didn’t answer any calls or messages. I get that they want to be alone for some time but like you say, communicate, be open. Otherwise people worry. Thanks for your input 🙂

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  6. cheenaquwt dit :

    Brought myself to this page cause I wanted to know if I am not alone on this experience as I am currently going through it. Not that I am highly affected, I still go on with life, get consumed by activities of daily living, but whenever there is a brief moment that I am not doing anything, it comes across my mind as to why I have to be treated such way.

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    1. Monaminga dit :

      I feel you. And do you have any slight cue as to why they disappeared ?

      J'aime

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