Why Are We So Passive ?

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Today I feel like being a little provocative, in the sense of « calling forth, challenging ». And I take the risk of displeasing or irritating, maybe not, we’ll see.

It’s been three weeks that I’ve been blogging and I have noticed a phenomenon which I find quite interesting and questioning. We all write articles, and I think we expect to be read, start discussions, invite other people to think, even if we are giving « advice », or « informing » within our modest capacities. There seems to be two categories of people all over the Web (forums, Facebook, blogs, etc.), those who take part actively (I find American blogs are usually very interctive), and those who Simply Watch passively.

According to me, a blog (as real life) has to be alive, it doesn’t matter if there are 2 or 20000 followers, if you join a « Community », I’m guessing it’s because you want to be part of it, to make it lively.

So, how can we explain the fact that, people read blog articles, they « like » it but say Nothing about what they read ? Can you imagine that you are talking to someone who is listening to you in real life but they only smile, which would be the closest thing to « liking » ? Or the reverse, you are listening to someone, and only smile without saying at least two words ? I’m not saying that there is Always Something fascinating to say about every post, but a little interaction would be enough I think. I’m just wondering. And maybe I’m not the only one asking the question.

I’m not aiming at anybody in particular, I’m only sharing a general feeling about a weird fact, which, I Believe, can be extended to other fields in our lives. Are we observers of life or do we take a fully active part of it ? I’ve Always asked myself that question in the classes, conferences, meeting I attend. I Don’t see myself going to such events without taking notes, asking questions, participating to the exercices, activities offered by the speaker. It’s quite embarrassing when someone asks for volunteers and everybody bends their heads. Participating is the best way for me to learn things and to show interest to the person in front of me. Now, I understand that everybody is not comfortable talking in front of many, to show themselves. Okay. But I think it’s absolutely important to ask ourselves what are the consequences of such an attitude in life. It can be related to the way many people act towards the elections; how many people Don’t get involved and Don’t vote but later on complain about this or that candidate for being elected ? How many times do we let other people decide for ourselves at a party, in the relationship, and then lament about their choices ? What about this friend who never takes decisions but disagrees with yours ? I’m sure we can find plenty of situations where we get carried on by the events, feeling powerless.

Next time you feel like remaining passive and Simply absorb things (informations, situations, decisions, etc.), ask yourself these few questions :

  • What things do I prevent myself from living by staying on the side ?
  • What would that change if I got more involved (at work, at school, with my friends, family, relationship, etc.) ?
  • What do I have to loose ? (except a few minutes of shame maybe).
  • How does the other person feel when I’m being passive ? How do I feel when someone is like that ?

Those were just a few thoughts going with the flow of my mind, but it really says the discomfort which I see in society regarding the subject.

Thank you for taking time to read my post. I would like to hear your thoughts if you are still Following after this post 😉

Let’s take care of ourselves.

See you around !

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  1. Aditya K dit :

    Thought provoking…indeed!!!
    In my opinion, it’s all about assuming responsibility for everything that we are part of. When I say responsibility, I don’t mean we should act upon everything. One of my posts was relating to it.
    You write well…keep them coming!

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    1. Monaminga dit :

      Thank you Aditya, thank you for being one of the most active in the community.
      You are right about responsibility, when we say something we take the risk of being commented on and to explain ourselves. For me that is what makes things interesting and helps everybody go forward, because if we all wait for other people to do things and don’t engage a little bit of our person, life appears dull and long.

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  2. Dr. Perry dit :

    Great post✨

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    1. Monaminga dit :

      Thanks Doc!
      You know I’ve wondered how come you subscribed to my blog 🙂 my tiny mini baby blog unknown on the face of the web !

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      1. Dr. Perry dit :

        You’re welcome! I love to read everything I can and I actually like your articles in french as I am trying to learn it✨

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      2. Monaminga dit :

        Ah! Très bien. Alors bienvenue 😉

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      3. Dr. Perry dit :

        Merci!!

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  3. When I don’t comment on a post, it’s usually because I can’t think of what to day – or something DIFFERENT to say! Or sometimes (when I don’t « like » it) because I disagree with it. (Although I have less trouble thinking of what to say those times…)

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    1. Monaminga dit :

      Thanks, I can see you commented on Ave Maria despite my feeling that you disagree with the fact of praising the dead, and I thank you for your insight.

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      1. I have no problems with praising the dead – I’m just funny about praying to them.

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      2. Monaminga dit :

        😉 it’s not a prayer to them. In the Catholic tradition, we Believe that the same as Jesus was raised from the dead, so was Mary (based on the book of the Apocalypse by John) It is of course an interpretation, so it can be discussed. Thus, if she’s in Heaven with Christ, then we can, not pray to her, but ask her to pray for us in our name, just as we would do it for each other.

        J'aime

  4. Sadje dit :

    If I haven’t been commenting on the posts I read, the reason is a; Shortage of time to think of suitable comments and b; not to be repetitive. I like what you wrote about taking an active part in life and /or blogging. And not to let life pass us by, while we sit on the sidelines.

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    1. Monaminga dit :

      Haha, I see what you mean. The lack of time is one of the reasons for not commenting, that’s right. This was one of my first posts on the blog, I’m very busy these days, so I just reposted some older posts to keep things up ; ) I’ll be back soon with fresh content !

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      1. Sadje dit :

        Yes, I saw that you were reposting. So we all are a bit short on time for one reason or the other.

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  5. If I want to be read and heard, then I must extend that to others….continue to write and talk. the more you write and speak, the greater the chances that you will eventually strike a chord with someone. They may accept your invitation eventually. Until then, nothing is lost.

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    1. Monaminga dit :

      yes, thanks for your insight 😉

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  6. Oli Ondo dit :

    You’re completly right and I feel the same. I think we’re just afraid to be wrong and don’t look beyond that

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    1. Monaminga dit :

      If we do a bit of philosophy, what’s being wrong ? There’s more to gain from participating than there is to loose.

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      1. Oli Ondo dit :

        Yes but people don’t see it that way. By being wrong I mean, to not get the right word to express our opinion or offend someone with our views. I remember I was following a fashion blogger that I love so much, and one day she posted a picture of her in a completly different style and I didn’t like it and shared my opinion because I thought it was something harmless but soon realized that people only love nice comments.

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      2. Monaminga dit :

        I see what you mean, that’s why some people don’t comment, because they are afraid they might offend by disagreeing. And it’s also true that some comments may come harsh, but as I usually say, if you share your ideas, it means you expose yourself to the risk of being criticised or to different opinions. The person who doesn’t accept that has no gotten the point of communication. Do you remember if your comment was maybe turned in a way that might have been taken wrongly ?

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      3. Oli Ondo dit :

        She was apparently promoting her sister clothing line. And she was not the one who actually got mad to my comment but the sister. And when I’ve apologized and explain that it wasn’t my intention to disgrace her sister work, she was cool and loved the fact that I came to apologize. I later understood why the sister was so defensive.

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      4. Monaminga dit :

        Omg, good it ended well !

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      5. Oli Ondo dit :

        Now I think twice before participating in anything.

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  7. floatinggold dit :

    I totally agree.
    I read quite a bit of posts just like that, and people always seem to agree. But if we all feel that way, then why are we stuck with MANY view, a few likes, and almost no comments?

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    1. Monaminga dit :

      Good question! What’s your opinion on this ?

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  8. Norah Vayle dit :

    Enjoyed reading your post. You’ve expressed a beginner blogger’s frustration in a very interesting way. Thanks for sharing. Best wishes.

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