T’en Penses Quoi ? / What Do You Say ?

 

Citation-amitie-de-Andre-Malraux
amitié , friendship

« Friendship is not about being with your friends when they are right, it’s about being with them even when they are wrong. » André Malraux

I usually agree with the quotes I choose, but I have a little problem with this one because, I can’t support someone who is acting badly even if they are my friends, or family members. They are still part of my life, I Don’t cross them out, but if I must condemn their behaviour, I will certainy do it. What about you ?

Je suis généralement d’accord avec les citations que je choisis, cependant j’ai un peu de mal avec celle-ci car je ne sais pas soutenir une personne qui agit mal même si c’est mon ami-e ou quelqu’un de ma famille. Je n’exclue pas la personne de ma vie, mais si je dois condamner un comportement je le ferai certainement. Et vous ? 

 

 

 

 

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  1. Sadje dit :

    I am with you on this one. Won’t support someone doing wrong even if they are family or friends. But I would tell them that they are on the wrong path.

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    1. Monaminga dit :

      Of course, they must know. I thought I would sound a bit harsh by saying that, thanks for your support 😉

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      1. Sadje dit :

        You’re welcome. Thanks

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  2. Do they condemn your bad behavior?

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    1. Monaminga dit :

      I do it first 😉 Supprisingly enough people don’t really tell me what they think of my behavior. Which I find sad because I know I’m far from being perfect and I grow by knowing what I can adjust. My parents, my husband tell me, but other people don’t. Maybe I frighten them ? Or they are more respectful than I am and don’t want to hurt me, or they think I don’t care, or they don’t care if I change or not, or they hope someone else will tell me.

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      1. I think it’s one thing to be honest with oneself as well as with friends and family. I just find it’s easier to always look outward than inward.

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      2. Monaminga dit :

        yes, it’s easier. The other people’s look, eventhough it shouldn’t define who we are is a reflection of what we put out in the world. So, when someone tells me something, I try and see how it can be true, it might not be totally tru, but there might be some truth in it 😉 what about you? Do people tell you how they feel about you ? If you do something wrong ?

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      3. I truly hope so, but unfortunately I think that people are afraid of confrontation. That’s the problem, you can’t get honest feedback anymore.

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      4. Monaminga dit :

        So, so, so sad. People are indeed afraid of confrontation, they are afraid you may not like them afterwards. I try to be honest most of the time, I still have to practice how to tell things smoothly, I think I can be hard sometimes or too direct for sensitive people. I like calling a cat « a cat » as we say in French. I prefer being honest than not, and I try not to hurt the feelings, that’s not my point.

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      5. I’ve been told I’m comically honest and too abrasive and direct. Like poppy said, I am who I am.

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      6. Monaminga dit :

        the world needs people like you who shake the dust and who are not « mild » (I mean neither hot nor cold) what’s the word for that ?

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      7. I don’t know. I sometimes lose words and phrases.

        I don’t want to shake up anything, I just want to be good at what I do. That’s another reason why I started to blog. I’m constantly looking for adversity.

        Iron sharpens iron

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      8. Monaminga dit :

        You don’t want to shake but you do 😉 and that’s good, you are thoughtprovoking, it forces people to take a position even if they don’t necessarily take part in the conversation, I’m sure it makes them either question their first belief or confirm theirs. The word I was looking for is « warm » but in the sens of without energy, in the middle, not on one side or the other, kind of asleep if you prefer.

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      9. Gotcha. Thanks Monaminga. I really appreciate that. It’s very nice of you. Truly, thank you

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      10. I promoted your blog on my podcast today!!! Don’t forget to follow my podcast as well

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      11. Monaminga dit :

        You did ? That’s sweet of you, thank you 😉

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      12. I did, I also told em how smokin hot you were. I hope your husband doesn’t mind.

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      13. Monaminga dit :

        haha 🙂 he loves that I’m hot, not sure how he feels that others see it too 😉 He’s flattered I think. Hope. Believe.

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      14. LOL, I wear glasses sooooo, I hope your husband wouldn’t hit a scrawny person like myself wearing glasses!!!!

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      15. Monaminga dit :

        lol, he is a charm.

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      16. Tell him I’m a Hemophiliac. Delicate and tiny!!!

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      17. Monaminga dit :

        🙂 I’m listening to your podcast « I know that I know nothing »

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      18. That’s how you get better at anything, criticism

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  3. mounasayamene dit :

    Merci d’avoir partager cet article .. Il m’a bcp aider à changer mon avis .. + le contenu de cotre blog est très interessant .. N’hésitez pas à visiter mon blog et me donner ton avis

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    1. Monaminga dit :

      Merci Mouna 😉 Content d’apprendre que cette citation t’a aidée 🙂

      J'aime

  4. Aldor dit :

    Je suis d’accord avec vous et avec la citation : on peut désapprouver, dire fermement que quelque chose de mal à été fait et cependant garder le lien, rester « avec »…

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    1. Monaminga dit :

      Tout à fait. L’art est dans la manière de dire son désaccord 🙂

      J'aime

  5. Hmmm… I guess it depends on the depth of the friendship as to how I would react/respond. I’ve learned to provide a lot more grace these days than ever before. The situation begs the question: « Is it important enough that it will make any difference whether we agree or not, today? »

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    1. Monaminga dit :

      Good point about questioning the importance to agree or not. Being rather principled, I find it hard to support someone who has wronged someone else even if they are my relatives or close friends.

      J'aime

      1. As my wife and I often remind one another… offer some grace… Ha, yeah, like that’s so easy sometimes… hahaha

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      2. Monaminga dit :

        Yeah, it’s work, like marriage 😉

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