We are in the fifth Week with Stephen Covey’s Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, yeay! I hope you enjoy these posts as much as I enjoy writing and sharing them.
Today’s habit is, wait for it …
Habit 5 : Seek first to understand, then to be understood.
This habit can be difficult to implement, because of our natural tendency of wanting to be approved, loved and accepted. We want people to understand us, we justify ourselves, we explain, give all the details because we want the other person to Believe us, to understand our situation and grant us what we are asking.
It reminds me of a story which is told in the Bible, there was this man who owed his master some money. He begged for his master to give him more time to give the money back, which was granted to him. But then, the man went out and met one of his debtors (he owed him much less than what the man owed his master), and brutally asked for his money back, I Don’t remember if he even went as far as physically abusing his debtor. He was happy that his master had been understanding with him, but couldn’t do the same with his fellow debtor.
This shows that, we need to treat the others as we want to be treated, if we want to be respected, we need to respect, if we want to be loved, we need to love, if we want to be understood, we need to understand first.
What about you, do you find it easy to understand first and then to be understood ? I want to hear from you.
Let’s take care of ourselves.
See you soon !