What’s Wrong With Body Hair ?!

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hairy On one hand, the beginning of the warm days Always comes along with advertisement for razors, depilatory creams and wax of all sorts so that we can, wait for it … pull our body hair out. On the other hand there is this new trend of exhibitting one’s body hair. From Anonymous people on the Internet to celebrities showing off with their hairy armpits, I felt like saying Something about this and engage you in a discussion.

Almost ten years ago, I decided to love myself entirely, and I started questionning the things I was doing automatically, because they were done, in order to stay in the « norm », etc. Doing that has changed my life in many ways and one of the aspects I questionned was my spending so much time and money for the removal of my body hair. It had started with the hair of the legs, then the armpits, and when I began to be sexually active, my pubic area was also concerned by depilation as in a natural movement. Fortunately I didn’t touch my face and arms hair, for the cycle in which I entered pushed me to continously poke my body hair because « it stings, it’s not pretty, it’s unhygenic, it’s not sexy », and so on.

I grew up in Cameroon and Twenty years ago body hair in women was considered beautiful, and was a sign of fertility. Women with hair on the chest were admired. Only when I came to live in France did body hair become a problem.

What is the « norm » where you live ? I see that I have readers from outside of the Western world, it would be nice to know other practices.

Let’s stop for a  few seconds and think about the time and money that us women and more and more men spend for hair removal. We’ve learned that a hairless body has to be the model of beauty and that those who Don’t shave are ugly, careless and dirty. I even knew a guy who wouldn’t get an erection because I had hair down there … Thank you to the porn industry (the main part, for there is porn for the hair lovers too) which teaches our youngsters that hair on the pubis is dirty and disgusting.

I Don’t intend to condemn those who shave, I would just like those who Don’t to feel comfortable with their bodies, with their choices, and for all options to be acceptable. There shouldn’t be one single model. I was at the gym the other day for a zumba class, I wore a knee-length leggin so my legs were showing, and I noticed some girls staring at my legs (they were three). They were trying to be discreet but I understood they were talking about my legs. I Don’t know whether they were « admirative » or whether they were criticizing. It’s not normal to feel stared at like a beast in the zoo just because you Don’t look a certain way.

Should a person be ashamed of what nature gave them ?

I’m proud to be hairy, all natural, to respect my body the way it is. During the summer I wear dresses, skirts, I go to the beach, the pool. But at work it’s different because I Don’t want to draw any attention somewhere else than my work. I work in places with mostly women who « take care » of themselves, so I Don’t want to engage in criticisms about why I should shave. But I would like to feel free to dress as I like anywhere I go including at work, without people focussing on a perfectly natural aspect of the human body made abnormal when untouched. It is as if I stared at someone’s nose, or nails finding weird that they have them, it’s exactly the same thing.

I am happy and a little reassured that there are more and more people on the Internet trying to question the dictatorship of epilation. Until two years ago, not shaving was marginal, and now some celebs have shown that a woman can be hairy and sexy, beautiful, attractive.  It’s crazy that one has to fight for the right not to hurt their body by mistreating it. Nonetheless, I’m against this fashion that consists in dying one’s armpits hair and / or showing them all over the place.

What do you think ?

colored armpit

Please, boys and girls out there, make sure you depilate by choice and respect other people’s choice not to. For those of you who will object that they hate their body hair by choice, I invite you to reflect on the concept of conditioning (Pavlov for instance), and then ask you grand mothers or great grand mothers how they related to their body hair.

What about you, what’s your Relationship with your body hair ?

Let’s take care of ourselves !

See you around !

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  1. Monaminga dit :

    This topic is still so sensitive, no one feels comfortable to discuss it here ? Very interesting.

    J'aime

  2. I’m cool either way I guess.

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    1. Monaminga dit :

      Really, really? 😉

      J'aime

  3. To be quite honest, female body hair seems to me to be quite exotic and incredibly sexy. Probably because it is no longer the norm. Hairy pits, hairy legs and hairy down there. Plus the hair is more often than not, soft. I can appreciate a hairy woman, just as I can appreciate women in general.

    Do whatever you want ladies, men will always desire your love, affection and attention.

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    1. Monaminga dit :

      Exactly, I think a person is lovable as long as they accept themselves and are proud of who they are. Goodmentality you have there. Let your Partner know that, you will certainly make them happy and feel more comfortable around you 😉

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      1. It’s in the individual to make up their own mind. If you cannot do something yourself, then why do it at all. People need to be strong on their own, if they are to be any good for society. She can do whatever she wants, as can I. I do not need permission, just as she does not need permission.

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      2. Monaminga dit :

        Yes you are right. I only Wonder if women (and more and more men) in nowadays society feel free to just be themselves, or if we all just conform to the norm so that we Don’t stick out too much, you know. Like me in the work place, I Don’t exhibit my body hair just to have peace and not draw attention on me in aspects which are not relevent at work. But what if I knew that nobody cares to begin with, would that be different ? Certainly yes. I know that my Partner doesn’t care about body hair, even loves it, thus I can be me without fearing his judgement.

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      3. Just be yourself and do what you can afford.

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      4. Consequences happen, both good and bad.

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  4. rythma dit :

    My hometown didn’t have this trend. Here, most women from rural areas (I’m from a very small town) don’t remove their body hair. When was in school, not many girls in my class used to remove their body hair. I first started when I was 16 or 17, I guess. In fact, in my community, most people don’t, one reason being, their clothes mostly cover their legs. While people from other communities in my hometown used to be judgmental of not shaving. In the city I’m currently at, most people would judge you. Some adults, belonging to the lower middle class probably won’t. Everyone else will. I, on the other hand, am pretty chill about it. I shave and wax, but not very regularly. I do it when I’m comfortable, and when I have time and money. Sometimes, I even let it grow. For me it depends upon where I have to be and the type of clothing I have to wear. And yes, I know some people are judgy, even my friends were sometimes, but it’s okay. I’m pretty hygienic, even when I have hair on my body.

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    1. Monaminga dit :

      Exactly, it has nothing to do with hygiene 🙂
      it sure is a town problem whether one shaves or not.
      Thanks a lot for joining the discussion 😉

      J'aime

      1. rythma dit :

        This topic needs to be written about more and you did that. It is a great post and it feels great to know that you’re so comfortable with yourself. Kudos to you for that!

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  5. Sadje dit :

    It really be one’s own choice. Do what feels comfortable and natural to you. Why should others have a say in it.

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    1. Monaminga dit :

      Right?!
      I don’t mind strangers, I even take some joy in it. When I’m dressed in a very feminine outfit with my hairy legs.

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      1. Sadje dit :

        Your body, your choice. 🤗

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  6. Écrirature dit :

    Baudelaire aimait le fard, le maquillage,  » ces retouches faites par l’art à la nature, ces rehauts spirituels, ces réveillons piquants posés d’une main habile pour augmenter la grâce, le charme et le caractère d’une physionomie. Ce n’est pas lui qui eût écrit de vertueuses
    tirades contre le mascara. Tout ce qui éloignait l’homme et surtout la femme de l’état de nature lui paraissait une invention heureuse. Ces goûts peu primitifs s’expliquent d’eux-mêmes et doivent se comprendre chez un poète de décadence auteur des Fleurs du mal !  » (Théophile Gautier)

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    1. Monaminga dit :

      Oh lala. Décidément tu m’éclaires sur beaucoup de choses aujourd’hui. Il fait partie des auteurs avec qui je n’ai pas vraiment accroché à l’époque où j’ai dû les étudier… je comprends mieux à présent. Nous n’étions pas faits pour nous côtoyer, il ne m’aurait pas aimée non plus je crois. 🙂

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      1. Écrirature dit :

        Allez savoir avec lui, j’étais sûr que ce texte te plairait sans te plaire. De mon côté j’aime les femmes nature mais force est de reconnaître que tout le monde n’est pas avantagé par la nature. 🙂

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      2. Monaminga dit :

        Lorsque l’on n’est pas avantagé par la nature comme tu le dis, trouves-tu vraiment que les fards et autres ornements arrangent les choses ? Je trouve que c’est pire, ou alors il faut vraiment y aller très fort pour dissimuler. Je me demande comment on se sent une fois que l’on a retiré tout le masque à rat haha, face à son miroir. Cela doit être bien déprimant. Miroir, mon beau miroir.

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      3. Écrirature dit :

        J’en sais rien, perso je suis comme je suis je ne cache rien, je ne porte ni montre ni bijoux j’ai horreur de tout cela…

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