On one hand, the beginning of the warm days Always comes along with advertisement for razors, depilatory creams and wax of all sorts so that we can, wait for it … pull our body hair out. On the other hand there is this new trend of exhibitting one’s body hair. From Anonymous people on the Internet to celebrities showing off with their hairy armpits, I felt like saying Something about this and engage you in a discussion.
Almost ten years ago, I decided to love myself entirely, and I started questionning the things I was doing automatically, because they were done, in order to stay in the « norm », etc. Doing that has changed my life in many ways and one of the aspects I questionned was my spending so much time and money for the removal of my body hair. It had started with the hair of the legs, then the armpits, and when I began to be sexually active, my pubic area was also concerned by depilation as in a natural movement. Fortunately I didn’t touch my face and arms hair, for the cycle in which I entered pushed me to continously poke my body hair because « it stings, it’s not pretty, it’s unhygenic, it’s not sexy », and so on.
I grew up in Cameroon and Twenty years ago body hair in women was considered beautiful, and was a sign of fertility. Women with hair on the chest were admired. Only when I came to live in France did body hair become a problem.
What is the « norm » where you live ? I see that I have readers from outside of the Western world, it would be nice to know other practices.
Let’s stop for a few seconds and think about the time and money that us women and more and more men spend for hair removal. We’ve learned that a hairless body has to be the model of beauty and that those who Don’t shave are ugly, careless and dirty. I even knew a guy who wouldn’t get an erection because I had hair down there … Thank you to the porn industry (the main part, for there is porn for the hair lovers too) which teaches our youngsters that hair on the pubis is dirty and disgusting.
I Don’t intend to condemn those who shave, I would just like those who Don’t to feel comfortable with their bodies, with their choices, and for all options to be acceptable. There shouldn’t be one single model. I was at the gym the other day for a zumba class, I wore a knee-length leggin so my legs were showing, and I noticed some girls staring at my legs (they were three). They were trying to be discreet but I understood they were talking about my legs. I Don’t know whether they were « admirative » or whether they were criticizing. It’s not normal to feel stared at like a beast in the zoo just because you Don’t look a certain way.
Should a person be ashamed of what nature gave them ?
I’m proud to be hairy, all natural, to respect my body the way it is. During the summer I wear dresses, skirts, I go to the beach, the pool. But at work it’s different because I Don’t want to draw any attention somewhere else than my work. I work in places with mostly women who « take care » of themselves, so I Don’t want to engage in criticisms about why I should shave. But I would like to feel free to dress as I like anywhere I go including at work, without people focussing on a perfectly natural aspect of the human body made abnormal when untouched. It is as if I stared at someone’s nose, or nails finding weird that they have them, it’s exactly the same thing.
I am happy and a little reassured that there are more and more people on the Internet trying to question the dictatorship of epilation. Until two years ago, not shaving was marginal, and now some celebs have shown that a woman can be hairy and sexy, beautiful, attractive. It’s crazy that one has to fight for the right not to hurt their body by mistreating it. Nonetheless, I’m against this fashion that consists in dying one’s armpits hair and / or showing them all over the place.
What do you think ?
Please, boys and girls out there, make sure you depilate by choice and respect other people’s choice not to. For those of you who will object that they hate their body hair by choice, I invite you to reflect on the concept of conditioning (Pavlov for instance), and then ask you grand mothers or great grand mothers how they related to their body hair.
What about you, what’s your Relationship with your body hair ?
Let’s take care of ourselves !
See you around !